Your belief followed by action makes the impossible possible. Stretch your thoughts beyond what you ever imagined you were capable of. That's where the real you resides. Take one small step towards it every day. You'll be there before you know it. Happy Wednesday. 💕
Good morning ~ So a member from my “Heal the Hurt” FB group asked me a question that I think is worth sharing here, as many of you may have been involved with someone with these issues.
The question is... What is the difference between someone with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)? And here’s the answer... While they are both personality disorders that come from a lack of self identity, BPD is an emotional regulation disorder. Someone with BPD feels their emotions far more intensely and for longer periods than someone without the disorder. They have extremely strong reactions to emotional triggers, especially abandonment, and will often destroy themselves in the attempt to keep someone from leaving them. And, unlike the narcissists, who think they’re better than everyone around them, a BPD's self perception is that they will never be good enough to have the love and life they desire.
Conversely, narcissists tend to be the opposite, and are usually not in touch with their emotions, outside of anger, rage, fear and jealousy. And rather than tear themselves apart to maintain a loving relationship, they will destroy the other person to maintain their own self-image. Narcissists tend to lack a conscience so they can lie, cheat, steel and otherwise obliterate someone, without caring.
While BPD people tend to be far more destructive, and I’ve seen some of them chew their NPD partners up, they usually feel remorse after the fact, and will try to make amends. ** If you would like to he part of my “Heal the Hurt” group, please send me a DM + I’ll send you the link ~ ✌🏽➕🖤
Falling in love can be amazing! But what if that relationship turns abusive? What if you don't realize it's abusive? I open up and go into detail about how I got out of an abusive relationship.
As a #survivor of #domesticviolence I know all to well how hard it is to leave your abuser. I used to think, I would never let that happen to me. And yet it did. Funny thing was...I didnt see being called names or belitted as abuse...or even being restrained or thrown into walls as abuse. Somehow these were normal things in everyday relationships.
It wasnt like this everyday. Somedays were great. But I never knew when those days were going to be. I always had knots in my stomach...trying to please him and not make him mad. Then came the first time he punched me in the face. We were arguing and he had his fist clenched and I told him if he was going to hit me...then hit me...so he did. I ran out of the apartment and he caught me outside and smashed my face and head against the sidewalk. Of course I lied to the ER dr and made up a lame excuse of how I tripped...he knew I was lying but I did have a concussion. Little did I know I would be seeing the same dr the following month.
May 19, 2006 after being beat in a parking lot, dragged to my car and finally back to my apartment for what was to be the most violent attack yet....the last thing I remember was seeing his face above mine...his tears hitting my face...telling me he loved me as he was choking me. I knew I was going to die and never see my son again. I did wake up and once everything of that night came flooding back to me the terror set in. I somehow drove to my sisters and went to the ER where I found out he had broke my neck in 3 place places with multiple fractures.
If you are in an abusive relationship please get help, I know its not easy but ultimately they will most likely kill you. Im sharing my story in hope to give at least one woman strength to leave her #abuser#youcantchangethem#dvsuvivor#strength#youcandoit